“Humans are naturally sexual creatures. We were not originally meant to sleep with just one person. So it is natural that we would want to have sex with as many people as possible.”

Ahem, I’ve heard that crap before and you’re welcome to believe it if you like but as far as I’m concerned, such a statement IS ONLY a very weak attempt to justify one’s unwillingness to settle down and commit to one person. It really is total crap!

Furthermore, for those who “might” be thinking of saying something like, “We’re gay; we don’t need to emulate the actions of the straight community by settling down, getting married, etc.” — I have but this to say… It’s not about taking on the behavior of our straight counterparts — it’s about respecting yourself and your partner enough so that you’d be willing to reign in your cock long enough to actually put your relationship (and the interests of your partner) ahead of selfish and brief sexual encounters. Often times, the blatant whore of the day will say anything necessary to set the trap that snares his/her soon-to-be partner (who doesn’t realize until it’s too late that “mister right” was “OH-SO-WRONG” for him!) This is precisely why I tell all of my young friends that communication is key AND AS WELL, that when your boyfriend presents colors that are anything but what you’d like to see on him – believe what you see rather than talking yourself into the old scenario of “oh, it was only a onetime thing” or “I’m overreacting.”

The bottom line

Don’t give me this crap about “humans being sexual creatures” as an excuse for bad behavior.

We’re a species with higher-reasoning skills which should account for something. It’s only that our world has become so forgiving of the “I don’t give a shit about anyone but myself” attitude, that we’ve gone to hell in a hand-basket. While the past wasn’t perfect (certainly, women weren’t as well-respected as they should have been), there’s something to be said about having a bit of respect for yourself and for others, such that you’d be willing to recognize when you’re being selfish, petty and just plain uncaring.

I’m certain there are those who think I’m being completely unreasonable and perhaps a little disrespectful to those whose relationships are open (polyamorous). No, I’m really not trying to put everybody into the same mold. I’m simply tired of people justifying their disrespectful, unfaithful and relentlessly selfish attitudes by pretending they’ve no more self-control than a dog in heat.

Gay or straight, you are better than that.

— Michael

A blogger asks “What is cheating?”

I would ordinarily go directly to the comments on his site and read those before throwing in my own two cents. However, this time will be different. (What follows is my own read on “cheating.”)

Ask anyone and you will get a number of different responses regarding the definition of cheating I suspect — and each one of those responses may be appropriate for the particular person who is commenting. However, it really boils down to what the couple involved have agreed upon. Some couples are so strong in their relationship that neither feels threatened by the idea of their spouse talking to somebody online. That’s the way it should be if your relationship is healthy. If it isn’t then you need to work on the relationship! Make it strong and keep the INTEREST alive for the both of you (then the odds are in your favor that there won’t be anyone elsewhere who could come close to presenting a real threat to your relationship’s continued good health and existence).

But just as plants in a garden require tender loving care and nourishment, so too does your relationship. Deny its needs and ignore it and it will die on the vine. Or to paraphrase, those fruits will start looking for another clay pot to take root within (pardon the pun).