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Movie: “House of Boys”

31 Mar

This movie wasn’t what I expected; it was so much more.

The tale begins with a young blonde-headed boy (“Frank”) born to a conservative family who just doesn’t seem to understand him. Frank is gay, leaves home and begins the adventure of a lifetime; one that will take him from dancing a carefree life in the clubs to performing at the “House of Boys” and onward through love and loss.

The House of Boys is best described as a gay club doubling as a brothel for those willing to pay for private shows (and favors) by the club’s “working boys.”

“Jake” is, by his own confession, a straight boy working in the club with whom Frank will share a room.

The blonde is smitten with Jake from the first night but Jake’s love of the boy will take longer to build.

As the movie unfolds, the seedier side of the club is made more evident as Frank observes Jake being led to the back room for a private show with a well-to-do designer from America who flies in once a month to spend time with the object of Frank’s affections. Angry and hurt, the young blonde bursts out of the house to spend a bit of time alone in the rain — but it’s now becoming a bit more obvious that Jake does have some feelings for Frank.


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Long Time In The Making

09 Mar

Ever feel like screaming because everything you once knew is “off limits”? That’s me of recent…

Anyone following my rants on Facebook or even my blog entries for some time now should be able to easily see that I’ve allowed myself to become very cynical. Of course, that really shouldn’t be such a surprise when you work 40-plus hours a week in a job that is filled with tension, surrounded by people who are not happy themselves and who are always bitching and/or gossiping about others. (Yes, I work with a bunch of women. Even the most staunch among the female race will readily admit an office dominated by the “fairer sex” can and often is a VERY DIFFICULT environment to navigate within. I feel empathy for your menstruation cycles but Christ, MUST you take it out on every man alive when the bloody river rises — as it most certainly will each and every month?) {shakes-head}

So considering:

  • The office with all of these combative women and their monthly cycles of pure terror;
  • The dolts in Washington, D.C. who refuse to do their jobs lest they appear weak and unwilling to deviate from their party’s official position (regardless of whether it’s good for the country or even in line with what the majority of their own constituents would have them present). Partisan politics, God save us all(!);
  • Assholes on the Internet who feel it’s their right (and perhaps even their DUTY) to bully anybody who dares have an opinion or set of values that differs from their own;
  • And the far-reaching overreactions of those same dolts in Washington, D.C. who, in the wake of the tragic deaths of school-age children at Sandy Hook Elementary are now irresponsibly attempting to circumvent the rights of all “law-abiding” citizens as guaranteed us under the Constitution (in order to push through their version of an extremist liberal agenda of gun control).

You might be thinking, “How strange for a comment such as the last one to be coming from Michael, a self-professed and registered Democrat who holds many among the Republican Party in disdain for pushing what he believes to be an irrationally religious and homophobic agenda.”

You’d be justified to ponder the why of this but the simple answer is, “It’s the politics of the extremists that are holding everyone hostage [today] and that is what truly disgusts me the most. “Partisan politics be damned; just do the fucking job we voted you in to do already!” That’s my message to the politicians.

In light of the above, I think it’s rather easy to understand why I have become so cynical in recent years.

I’m simply exhausted; tired of hearing people whose heads appear to be permanently fixated upon or thrust far up into their arses, who can’t seem to understand they shouldn’t take everything they hear “at face value.” All would be well-advised to do a little bit of studying; of our own history and of the values (not simply the rhetoric and self-professed values, but the REAL values held by those they have already elected or are considering for a seat of power).

We need to put in the work if we truly want to see the results we yearn for — and we need to FIRE the people in Washington, D.C. who do NOT have our own best interests at heart but rather, are yielding to those lobbying on behalf of businesses who truly don’t give a shit about anything but their own profit (regardless of the real costs, both in dollars and inasmuch as our civil rights are concerned – to the rest of us).

Certainly, none of what I’m saying should be coming as “news” to you and I know that this entry has, not surprisingly come off as yet another rant.

The rants are why I deactivated my Facebook account for a minimum of 6-months only recently. I’d grown weary of seeing links to alleged news about events or agendas at the federal level that only left me feeling angrier, dissatisfied and more hopeless than I was feeling in the moments just before I’d read the article.

In this fast-paced era where “news” travels in a millisecond, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or overcome with rage at a world that has seemingly “totally and hopelessly” spun out of control.

For that reason, I decided to pull the plug on one of the sources (Facebook) of my own frustration for a short six months. I’ll revisit the decision at the end of that period and will decide whether I want to reactivate the account. We shall see; meanwhile, I’ll blog from time to time and spend more of my energy trying to lose the weight I’ve gained over the years. The same weight I often complain about when long-lost friends see me for the first time in years. {laughs}

Namaste,
Michael

 
 

Prejudice, Who of Us Is Innocent?

01 Dec

This is the “other” post I thought I’d make before I occupy my time today with the tasks of the day. I [usually] try to discourage others from embracing prejudice of any kind.

After all, if you “feel the need to judge”, you would fair better by taking their personal and uniquely individualistic characteristics into consideration — remembering that we ALL fall far short of perfection on any given day.

Of course, such advice is sometimes difficult to follow and far too often it falls on deaf ears.

Do I have a prejudice? Yes, I must [sadly] admit I’ve at least one.

Such a prejudice has been cultivated by many years of reading the “death to Americans” bullshit propaganda that usually comes out of the very countries where we purchase much of our raw oil (from the Middle East, etc.) Our money is desired but our presence and our very lives are seemingly held in disdain in these regions.


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Regrets, I have [at least] One…

12 Nov

I don’t often talk about Rodney but he’s the one who got away. Not taking anything away from the young man I’m involved with today (he knows all about my past; the good, the bad and the very, very ugly) but Rodney was very special. Kind and gentle, strong and stable, romantic and filled with passion… He was also gorgeous. (Fortunately for me, Taylor embodies all of these qualities, as well. I am very blessed that both of these two men are/were beautiful, inside and out).

I was only 24 when Rodney and I began dating; he, four years older than myself.

He was the more mature of the both of us and made my 25th birthday the most memorable of ALL birthdays; before and after. (I’ll explain) He told me I needed to dress for the occasion; that he would pick me up for a surprise night out and that anything less than suit and tie would be “unacceptable.” My surprise destination was a HUGELY romantic restaurant that catered primarily to couples only (granted, all of the other couples were seemingly straight).


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Mitt Romney; the Good, the Bad and the Ugly.

28 Oct

Pledge to "National Organization for Marriage" as signed by Mitt RomneyI have always said (and still maintain) that every person is entitled to vote his or her conscience, for the man or woman he or she feels will do the best job.

We all know that the President’s powers are limited but the office is not without its influence. I posted a link to a Youtube video the other day about an interview of a schoolteacher who sat across the table from Mitt Romney, during which he responded to her most unkindly and rudely when she indicated she had a suggestion for how some of the issues relating to the education of our children might be addressed. Romney cut her off, saying, “I didn’t ask you a question.”

In my personal opinion, the man is totally UNQUALIFIED to lead this country.

Status post as shared on Facebook page; says it all, folks!I’m not saying that Barack Obama has been the best of leaders during the past four years; I take issue with some of the things he has done, as well. More so, I take greater issue with the actions of both the Republican and Democratic parties (as both have put the interests of this nation on the back burner while playing “partisan politics” and creating gridlock in Washington, D.C.)

As anyone who knows the slightest bit about me know, I’m a gay white male. I did NOT “choose” my sexual orientation; it simply is what it is, just like the color of my skin, my gender, the family to which I was born, etc.

That’s a far cry from those things we DO choose, such as whether to believe in a religion, what we do for a living, where we live and what we drive, etc. The LGBT community has been fighting for acceptance, understanding and equality for years; we’ve made some (a lot, actually) progress but we are nowhere close to being treated with the respect deserving of any man, woman or child just for being who he or she was born to be.

Same-gender relationships are not recognized, though most are every bit as loving and respectable as any [other] relationship between a committed man and woman. If my partner becomes ill and must be hospitalized, I’m not considered “family” and therefore not given the same access and consideration I might receive were I a straight, married male and my “partner” were a woman.

Same-sex couples who are in committed relationships, who have chosen to build a life with one another starting with the purchase of a home, vehicles, shared checking and savings accounts, etc. do NOTenjoy the same protection under the law should one or the other of them die.

Certainly they [we] can have legal documents drawn up but in the end, even that does not guarantee that their wishes will be followed — and it’s a hell of a fucking lot more expensive than the simple execution/signing of a marriage certificate which opposite-sex couples may enjoy. ONE WOULD THINKthat since we are not given the same consideration and protection under the law that we would not have to pay taxes that are commensurate to those [straight couples] who DO enjoy all of these protections and freedoms.

Such is NOT the case; we are taxed equally to all others, regardless of our sexual orientation and acceptance.

This is why I get as angry about this issue as I do and it’s why I’m saying “Fuck you, Mitt Romney!”

To those reading this blog entry, who are taking the statement I have just made personally, as an affront to your delicate political sensibilities (regardless of whether you’re family or a friend)…

If you cannot understand WHY those of us who do NOT fall into the category of heterosexual, are so angered by the personal agendas of the conservatives to restrict and diminish the civil rights of others (in this case, me), basing their actions on a SECULARbelief that we are immoral and therefore undeserving of the same consideration as any other citizen of this great nation…

Some might say that if you cannot stand WITHus in an effort to achieve what is rightfully “everybody’s” then you are standing against us.

I understand that unless you are gay or bisexual, that this might not be considered “your fight” but I’ll remind those reading of “The Golden Rule: Treat others as you would have them treat you.” If you cannot stand up for the rights of others, how then can you expect them to stand up for your own rights if and when you yourselves are on the losing end of a constitutional matter/discussion?

You may have your reasons to vote for Mitt Romney and far be it from me to tell you to do otherwise (as I think every vote is important, regardless of whether it is how I myself would or would not vote). But if you cannot at the very least TELL THIS F##KERthat you do not stand with him on this personal agenda of “hate” (and that IS what it is, regardless of how some may color it), then you are no real friend to those closest to you (including family) who identify as gay or bisexual.

If you are standing with a bigot who puts his “religious” beliefs above his ability to uphold the precepts of our founding documents and all that they stand for (“EQUALITY”) without at least telling him you disagree, then you’re a part of the problem.

Personally, I feel that this hateful man is “ill-equipped to lead this nation” and he doesn’t have the interests of our country and its citizens at heart. I won’t be voting for him in the forthcoming election; he’s shown his colors on many the occasion and I just cannot stomach their shade.

Namaste,
Michael

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Middle East Turmoil, My thoughts…

14 Sep

Screenshot from Sam Bacile's Muhammad MovieOkay, I hadn’t seen the video made by Sam Bacile until just now.

Does it quality as “hate speech”? I don’t believe it does though it doesn’t really surprise me that Muslims find the film so distasteful. (Personally, I think the director captured the essence of many in the Middle East who make the news. Perhaps they simply don’t like seeing the truth through another person’s eyes?)

REGARDLESS of the film’s message; regardless of the opinions expressed by the video’s creator, we here in America have something called “freedom of expression.” It’s one of the rights we’ve cherished from this country’s very beginning. This right is one of many which set us apart from those in other parts of the world who must suffer the censorship and radical control at the hands of their governments and/or dictators.

Granted, some (many on many different occasions perhaps) will occasionally say something that others among us find offensive, insulting, infuriating, etc. but so long as they are expressing an “opinion” or what they believe to be the truth, that is their “right” to do. (Even if [perhaps] they’d be better served by employing a bit of self-restraint and decorum.)

I myself have made statements which I know have offended others but the grownups among us take it all in stride and simply move on.

That CLEARLY isn’t the way of those who follow Muhammad

Violence against Americans and American interests abroad? Violence against people who had NOTHING whatsoever to do with the video and whose ONLY LINK to the film’s creator is that they too are U.S. citizens? I have said it before; I’ll say it again… The Middle East, the entire region, is ONLY interested in violence.

They have been fighting amongst themselves for thousands of years and worse, they brought their fight to us when the terrorists among them inflicted harm and death upon our own, both abroad and right here on our own soil.

The latest round of violence is nothing to be surprised by. Extremists will use ANY EXCUSE to justify their perpetuation of violence toward American citizens and the interests of this country. I say, “Pull ALL of our people out of the region; every last one of them. Those [Americans] who refuse to leave, let them know they are taking their own lives into their own hands and that they should not count on aid from this country if they should run afoul of the real infidels. THEN cut off ALL of the aid we are presently offering to these regions — ALL OF IT!” Send a loud and clear message that they are “on their OWN”, to do for themselves with their own resources (not ours).

We should do all we can to divest ourselves from the dependency we’ve created on foreign oil, etc. so that the Middle East does not profit from the sale of oil to American interests.

Understand this… I’ve nothing against the religious beliefs of Islam and personally speaking, I understand the offense taken when somebody takes pot-shots at the figurehead associated, by definition, with one’s faith. However, it is imperative that these people understand that the “OPINIONS” as expressed by ONE U.S. citizen do not necessary represent the opinions of every American.

Since so many in the Middle East seem incapable of making that distinction, screw them! My response is, “Have fun building up your own damned country and doing for yourselves, folks. I ain’t helping you anymore.”

— Michael

Related Links:

Sam Bacile’s Innocence of Muslims FULL HD movie, which caused such a violent reaction from Muslims in the Middle East and other parts of the world.

Barack Obama asks for suppression of anti-Islam video. (An example of yet one more politician’s inability to appreciate the right of a U.S. citizen to express his or her opinion, unhindered by the government, regardless of how inappropriate or outrageous that opinion may or may not be.)

The shocking video Muslims don’t want you to see!! (A disturbing comparison of Nazi Germany and present-day Muslims.)

Libya ambassador Chris Stevens killed: U.S. warships headed to Libyan coast as Obama says ‘justice will be done’

An article appearing in USA Today suggests that the Deadly Embassy Attacks were Days In The Making

 
 

Handouts and Who To Vote For?

30 Aug

I'd Like To Vote "None of The Above!"Honestly? I did not vote for Barack Obama in the last presidential election. (I take exception to his position on inheritance taxes and capital gains taxes and as well, do NOT believe in his attitude with regard to the “redistribution of wealth” — and I don’t care how you ‘splain or try to justify it, that is his attitude.)

If you want something, get off your ass and work for it. I’ve done that my entire life and I’m quite sick and tired of those who feel “entitled” to free handouts.

I am all for giving a person a much-needed hand-up but I’m tired of those who just want a handout so they can sit on their asses and get a free ride at the expense of those who ARE working, who DO pay taxes on salaries that are the direct consequence of their having worked for them (as opposed to a “salary” that was simply given to him or her under the guise of some government subsidized welfare program).

This isn’t to say there aren’t people out there who are deserving of a hand-up to survive; they exist (I know they do).

I’m just saying that “If you want the help, GIVE SOMETHING BACK in return! Don’t just take the money and run.

You can pick up trash, volunteer to do some data entry in a government office or a charity, help out with programs for the elderly or those who are physically unable to get out to pick up their prescription medications or to do their own grocery shopping. There is always something a person can do to give something back to the community that is [financially] helping him or her. Hell, volunteer your time to be a part of a phone bank to answer frequently asked questions relating to city/state services or [again] a charitable organization of some sort.

You might get the impression I’m a Republican, listening to me say these things; you’d be wrong.

I’m a registered Democrat; I have been since I first registered to vote many years ago. Having said this, I’m also an equal-opportunity offender.

I cannot stomach the gas-bags in the Republican party who’ve an interest in legislating morality but neither do I support the idiots in my own party who want to buy votes by offering every lazy-ass citizen (and those who enter our country illegally, who’ve little to no desire to work toward their citizenship) with a handout). I am equally disgusted with both parties.

Certainly, I get that circumstances are seemingly more difficult in some of the other countries and I understand that families there are just trying to make a living and survive… That explains why some of them cross the border illegally to try and find work here. But it REALLY isn’t all that much better for a lot of our own citizens in the States (America).

We’ve a lot of homeless people on the streets; we have a lot of families who are living from paycheck to paycheck, only days away from being turned out of their own homes should luck turn against them. One thing that makes me angry is that much-needed resources, resources which could be used to assist citizens who are here legally, who have been working and have been paying their taxes all along… Those resources are mishandled and given freely to people who are NOT here legally, who have NOT been making the contributions that make those very programs possible, by paying their fair share of the taxes you and I pay (if only because they are here illegally, have been paid under the table and there’s no record of their being employed).

Sorry Mexico… You take care of yours; we’ll take care of our own, thank you very much!

There has never been an argument made in my forty-nine years of living that will convince me I’ve a responsibility to every other person in every other country, be they across the border or around the world. I do my part to help others when I can … but it’s because I “want to”, not because I feel I MUST and am expected to.

If I willingly choose to give of my own resources (those which are mine and mine alone to give) to somebody, that is one thing (and quite honestly, we should all help when we can). But it’s quite another thing for a group of politicians who are living the fat life off of our sweat and hard work, whose only agenda is to get re-elected, to STEAL the fruits of our labors and just give them away, acting dismissive toward the interests and expressed priorities of our own citizens in the process.

You think I’m kidding? Just read about the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP).

Tomorrow I may write about how I feel that Ron Paul was screwed by the GOP during the Republican convention (and in the days that led up to the convention). No surprise there, given that NEITHER party understands the concept of integrity and acting on behalf of the interests of the average citizen.

In closing, if you were to ask me who I’m voting for in the upcoming election I’d have to say “I don’t know.”

I’ll probably vote for the Democratic ticket (with reservations) simply because I cannot stomach voting for the elitist Mitt Romney and Paul Ryan. Ryan wants to gut Medicare and Medicaid; I’m sorry but as fiscally conservative as I am, I have serious misgivings with regard to that little fuck’s attitude toward our seniors who, after having paid taxes all their lives then find themselves in need of medical assistance only to discover that the funds are no longer available for their use.

On a more personal front, I am offended by the Republican Party’s attitude toward LGBTQ issues. Many of their number are as homophobic as they come! So, for those of you who are Republican and can’t understand why I’m not on board with your causes, think about it… If you’d get the fuck out of my bedroom and quit trying to legislate morality, we might be able to reach some common ground.

Till then, the Republican Party can kiss my ass (but all things being fair, color me “disgusted” with both parties!)

Ugh!

 
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A Word to Christians Everywhere

15 Aug

No apologies for my faithfulness; I’m gay but I’m also a man who believes in a higher power. God, Creator, Yahweh, Spirit, The “One”… choose whatever label you are comfortable with. I simply do not believe life is just a co-inky-dink; that we are simply born, die and that’s the end.

I believe in so much more!

We are not alone; we are not a “happenstance” — some mingling of two molecules that somehow, quite by accident did miraculously combine, resulting in our creation. There is a reason, a purpose for our being here.

Here is where my brand of faith diverges from that of many whose faith is more “traditional“. While I do believe we exist for a purpose (to experience, grow and evolve), I do NOT believe we’re some experiment in God’s proverbial lab upstairs. He isn’t testing us to see if we are deserving of His company in the afterlife or an eternity in hell. Nor do I believe that we get only “one shot at life” (I’ve addressed the fact that I believe in reincarnation in other blog entries – no good reason to rehash that here).

What we are is God incarnate; we are made in God’s image, each one of us and as such we’ve a choice in our birthright. We’ve power over our lives, the likes of which few will ever fully realize in this lifetime.

(That will sound like blasphemy to those who ascribe to an orthodox brand of faith and again, I make NO apologies to such people.)

The traditional believers did get one thing right; we have free will. While I believe we choose the circumstances into which we will be born (to best set ourselves up for the experiences that will most likely help us to evolve), our lives and all that will happen to us is not “carved in stone” (there is no such thing is pure destiny). The path that our lives take will be affected by every life-altering decision we make, from the time of our “birth” until the very moment our physical bodies cease to function. Our lives will become what we make of them; peaceful, fulfilled, chaotic and disorganized, loving or bitter… There are as many outcomes as there are stars in the heavens.

This doesn’t mean I’m blind to science though; I do believe in evolution.

In fact, I think it is not only silly but downright irresponsible that some institutions teach only creationism. It isn’t God’s intention for us to walk through life with blinders on, oblivious to the fact that “life evolves.” God doesn’t ask that we remain ignorant of how our lives and our environment are affected by science.

If anything, I believe He would ask that we continually question and search out the truth. Anything less is a waste of our intellect which, if one is to believe that all things come from God so too do the minds with which we use to reason with each day.

And yet, there are many who cling to tradition; even in the face of a preponderance of evidence indicating they do not fully understand that which they judge. Their inability to move past their fear and hatred give them cause to do things in the name of their “faith” that is unwarranted, anything but Christ-like and downright inhumane.

I am appalled by the vast majority of those who are quick to proclaim themselves as Christians or devout Catholics, who cloak themselves in religious doctrine to the extent they set aside human dignity for their fellow man.

These individuals are so quick to try and justify their prejudice through a “book” written thousands of years ago in Hebrew (with the exception of a few chapters written in Aramaic). It was written during an era when the language did not even have “words” for some of the things “Christians” and others of faith attempt to pass judgment on today. For instance, many assume God held homosexuality in disfavor when only one or two scriptures make mention of persons of the same gender laying with one another. (Even then, it takes a stretch of the imagination and gross misinterpretation of those scriptures to justify their stance on the matter.)

Leave the judging to He who knows us bestThose who use the Bible to justify their prejudice against (and the hatred or disgust they feel toward homosexuals) more often than not will disregard all scripture which may present their own actions in an unfavorable light. Such persons choose instead to focus ONLY on passages that appear to support their not so Godly agendas. They much prefer to criticize and condemn rather than leave the judging up to Another who might know our hearts so much better than our peers EVER could.

How ironic is it that they cannot see the correlation between the arguments used by those who preceded them, who relied on the Bible in a failed attempt to justify slavery and preempt couples of mixed races from following THEIR OWN hearts and marrying one another? Those same arguments are eerily similar to the ones given in the “present day” while trying to prevent same-sex couples from marrying, a right opposite-sex couples often take for granted. (We simply wish to secure the same protections for our loved ones as any other “married couple” might enjoy under the (sic) watchful eyes of the government.)

But setting aside the issue of marriage equality for now…


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LGBTQ-Related Suicides during 2012

09 Jun

The number of LGBTQ suicides for the year 2012 currently stands at...As indicated in an earlier [blog] entry, I’ll continue to focus my thoughts on everything I am thankful for (which is quite a lot) and I refuse to allow the works of those whose actions are born of hate to have their desired effect on me. That does not mean I will ignore the tragedies that are left in the wake of their hatred, however. Bullying a child for any reason is wrong, whether the abuse comes from another child or an adult. Sadly, there is a lot of bullying that is originating from BOTH these days; most notably (at the moment), from those who are trying to secure the nomination for the Republican ticket in the upcoming presidential election and as well, from the uber-conservative “we’ve got a stick up our arse” State of Tennessee!

This entry isn’t going to be a full-on rant but understand one thing… I will revise the entry each and every time I hear of yet another child or young adult whose suicide or death is somehow related to LGBTQ intolerance and bullying. It isn’t intended to be a depressing blog entry (though by its very nature it will be).

Rather, it is a reminder to any who read it of just how many senseless deaths are taking place in this one year (2012) alone as a consequence of prejudice and intolerance.

“God, grant me the Serenity
to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can and Wisdom to know the difference.”


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To paraphrase

05 Jun

For those who can’t seem to wrap their heads around homosexuality, who justify their prejudice by regurgitating misinterpreted scripture from the Bible (or don’t even make that much of an effort to excuse their narrow-mindedness)…

Instead of focusing on “what you believe” sets us apart, why not try understanding how much we have in common (with you)? We bleed the same, we love the same, there are many gay men and women who yearn to raise families… A good many of us are faithful/spiritual/religious; a good many MORE would be if only we weren’t always being told God doesn’t condone our acceptance of ourselves. We live, we die, we work, we play… We are sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers, aunts, uncles and grandparents. Some are over-achievers while others; well, not so much (no different than any other group of persons I suspect). Some of us are fit while others are chubby; some are clean cut and others identify as “goth.” Some work as models, hair stylists, artists (right alongside their/our straight counterparts). Still others make their living as lawyers, firemen (and women), police officers and judges, accountants, CEOs, ditch diggers, fry cooks and any number of other jobs that your average run of the mill straight guy or gal might hold. Heck, just like our heterosexual peers, some of us even play professional sports. There isn’t one single segment of society where we aren’t represented. All one need do is keep an open mind and quit spending all of his/her spare time worrying about what we’re doing behind closed doors, at home and in our own bedrooms with the one we fell in love with (who is every bit as important and an integral part of our lives as your own might be to you).

I’m not saying that every gay man or lesbian fits a certain mold. Certainly there are some who are promiscuous and hesitate to settle down, no more so than any straight man or woman in the world who feels the same calling to play the field … but don’t judge us all by the actions of some.

…If you still don’t see how much alike we are, you and I, then you’re really not trying all that hard.